What to do After Trauma?

The recent hurricanes that took place reeking havoc on Texas and Florida had me a hormonal mess. I’m located in Texas and have family and friends located all across Houston. Some of my friends lost everything, some got away with minimal loss, and others are just fine. I so badly  wanted to run down there and help after it was all said and done, but being pregnant it was not and is not safe for me to do so. Ultimately however the entire event has got me thinking and meditating on how I can help to fix my self and my own personal problems. My family has been through a lot in just a few short years: we had a baby; my husband lost his mother; I suffered severe postpartum depression; we had a roommate issue (actually we had a few of these) that nearly broke us mentally and financially; honestly the list goes on and on. While I have done well in terms of fixing and managing my husband and I’s relationship there are still ongoing issues that I will never be able to fix if I do not first fix myself.

What is trauma?

Trauma comes in many forms a complicated birth, a natural disaster, emotional abuse, a terrible car accident, or the loss of a loved one. No matter what type of trauma experienced a road to recovery is needed. Trauma always constitutes a type of loss, whether its the loss of time, emotional security, physical capabilities, or a person, that loss hurts. When you have a family and you are experiencing this hurt whether its something directly effecting one person or every person its important to not only know how to properly care for yourself, but others as well.

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Maybe you are one of the many people who’s lives have been devastated by Harvey and Irma, or a mom suffering from postpartum depression and healing after a very traumatic birth experience. Perhaps your someone who just lost their best friend. Life does not always give us a silver spoon, a ray of sunshine, or a silver lining. However, that does not mean we give up. If you are currently suffering and have tried everything you can on your own to make yourself happy then perhaps it is time to seek out extra help.

Helplines:

Suicide Prevention Lifeline (United States)Copy of What to do after

1-800-273-8255

National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233

LGBTQ Crisis Hotline and Services

https://www.ostem.org/crisis-hotlines

Financial Assistance, Medical Affordability, Local Help Resources

Call 2-11 in the U.S if you have any questions for financial assistance regarding food, paying bills, childcare, social services, and/or medical expenses.

If you are not sure where to begin in terms of trying to make yourself better and are too scared to reach out for help try some of these tips below.

Step 1:

  • Make sure you are taking time for yourself.
  • If you need to cry, then cry.
  • If you need to sleep, sleep.
  • If you just need some time to be alone, do it.

Step 2:

  • Get outside, you need 20 minutes of sunshine minimum everyday.
  • If you can see a Doctor and discuss with them about having your vitamin levels checked.
  • Take a multi-vitamin, it will help if you are lacking anything in your diet. Discuss with your Doctor on what the best multi-vitamin might be for you.

Step 3:

  • Drink water
  • Do your best to maintain a well balanced diet.

Step 4:

  • Try to workout at least 3 times a week for 20 minutes, even if its just walking around your office building or apartment complex.

Step 5:

  • Set a goal or goals, write down all the steps need to achieve that goal.

Step 6:

  • Start working towards your goal.

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If you Know someone who has recently experienced trauma?:

Perhaps you are not currently suffering as a result of trauma, but know someone who is. Maybe your spouse lost a parent or your best friend is getting out of an abusive relationship. Whether they are blatantly asking for your help or you are simply reading their story via Facebook updates, there are ways you can help even if you are not there next to them or capable of visiting in person.

Step 1:

Listen to what they tell you. Ask questions if you don’t understand.

  • What do they need?
  • What hurts?
  • Why does it hurt?
  • How does it hurt?
  • Where does it hurt?
  • When did it start?
  • Who caused it?
  • How was it caused?
  • What was the cause?

Step 2:

Be a shining light or a positive place for them. Build them up.

Step 3:

Help them problem solve.

Step 4:

Ask them about their goals, keep them on track to reaching them.

When someone is healing as a result of trauma they may try and gloss over the problem by saying everything is okay. They may hide behind good things or excuses. Don’t be afraid to show your failing points or troubles and how you fixed them or are working to fix them. If you feel someone is hiding their true emotions ask them about their goals, share with them about yours. Check in with them often to see how they are doing with their goals and give them an update on your own.

You and someone close are dealing with trauma simultaneously?:sad-child-1759986_640

Whether your family lost everything to the hurricanes or just experienced a traumatic car accident there are times in all of our lives when we are forced to not only care for our own mental well being, but the well being of others as well. Some are good at this. Others just freeze. It is okay to show emotion. It is okay to cry, it is okay to be mad. However, its important to also know where the balance is.

Step 1:

Have open discussions about every ones feelings.

  • What is everyone feeling?
  • What does everyone fear?
  • How can those feelings be properly expressed?
  • What can we do to fix those fears or bad feelings?

Step 2:

Give everyone their individual time to heal and move forward.

  • Maybe counseling with a third party is needed.
  • Maybe mom needs 20 minutes everyday to  just take a breath and relax without anyone touching her or asking for something.
  • Maybe the children need time with their friends.
  • Perhaps dad needs mom to listen to and hold him for a little while while he cries a few times a week.

Step 3:

  • What are the goals for the family?
  • How can you prevent future trauma?
  • What is everyone’s individual plan/goal for the future?

When you work through trauma individually it can be overwhelming, however we all must do things to care for ourselves otherwise we will not be able to care for others. When we are caring for others we must first listen to them in order to provide them with what they really need. If our entire household is experiencing trauma we need to not only listen to ourselves and voice our needs, but also listen to the needs being voiced by our spouse and our children. If we are not capable of doing exactly what someone needs, we must then find a compromise or something that is mutually beneficial to both parties.

The beautiful thing about Houston and really most of South East Texas is that despite the political, religious, and racial differences expressed, debated, and argued they will always help their neighbor in need. The entire country watched as the people came together to rescue and evacuate thousands who were stuck. The part you won’t see is how they will also come together to clean it up and rebuild. Social class, religion, race, politics, and gender will have no place to stand as neighbors will come together to exchange labor, goods, shoulders, and ears to help one another move forward. The hurricane was a trauma shared, for some it was more devastating than others, but that doesn’t mean those who are doing better move forward unscathed, instead they take their time to heal and they heal themselves, by helping to heal each other.

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Getting Back on Track

Finding out I was pregnant with baby number two hit me much harder than I would have expected. Even though we were trying for this one I still found myself completely unprepared for what that meant exactly. These past few months had me physically ill from morning sickness and financially unhinged. Fortunately thanks to my sisters gift of a vehicle I was able to jump on board with Lyft. With my husbands hours I needed something flexible that I could do while making money consistently, unfortunately the blogging thing just wasn’t cutting it. However, I don’t want to give up on my blog not when I’ve already invested so much time, energy, and money into it.

I’ve also decided to get my teaching certification, and hope to be employed as a teacher by Fall 2018. Being a teacher will of course mean placing my children in daycare something I’ve thus far avoided (mostly because it was/is not affordable), however with both my husband and I working and with me getting paid a teacher salary we could definitely afford daycare even with both kiddos attending.  In the meantime I am finally getting a handle over our finances and have an actual action plan aimed at bringing down our debt. Since starting Lyft on June 24, 2017 I’ve made over $1000. I also got my husband in on the action and he’s brought in over $300 since he started July 4th.

My husband choose to leave sushi at the end of May and has since been working at a cafe. He gets paid weekly, which means we have to really budget if we want to pay everything on time. My responsibilities as a result both to my working and with my husbands new pay schedule have increased. Its been difficult trying to organize everything. To combat my organization problem I explored Pinterest where I discovered Bullet Journaling (BUJO). Tomorrow’s post I will share my enterance into the Bullet Journaling adventure.

How I’m handling my New Years Resolutions:

Personal:

Health:

Pregnancy definitely makes you more aware of your health I’ve managed to maintain a healthy diet and have gotten pretty good at meal planning. Since getting the car I’m walking less, but I’m still making an effort to walk regularly, I’ve also been taking my son to the Pool and Park multiple times a week. Thanks to Lyft I’ve mostly gotten setup with a regular wake-up and bedtime routine.

Financially:

My husband switched jobs a few times this year as a result our finances have been sort of off balance. Thanks to my working with Lyft, however I’ve managed to get a handle over many things and I expect in the next few months to see a great improvement in our situation. Since I am due with a new little in December I’m planning not only to cut down on our debt, but also to pay extra on our bills for the next few months. I’ve got a budget set up and thanks to my bullet journal I’m able to keep track of my progress so much better.

Hobbies:

I haven’t done a whole lot in the hobbies department, but my reading list has really been devoured. I started reading Strengths Quest, and I finally finished Stephen Kings On Writing, Debt Cures They Don’t Want You to Know About, as well as What to Expect the Second Year. My plants are going to need to be re-potted again even though I just re-potted them this Spring. Bullet Journaling feels like it is quickly becoming a new hobby and I am really enjoying it. My husband bought me a new journal a couple months ago and I wasn’t sure exactly what to do with it, until I found bullet journaling on Pinterest.

My writing goals:

My blog:

I didn’t reach my goal of 5 posts a week every week. Especially when you consider I haven’t posted anything in the past three months. However, I did purchase my blog rights this year, and despite being gone for three months I managed to rake in a whole thirty cents in advertisement funds. I’m hoping as I get back on track and begin posting more regularly the funds will increase. I don’t want to give an exact number for how often I will be posting, though I really hope I can post at least twice a week. I’ve got a ton of posting ideas still, and I want to continue this even if I can’t make it a full-time income the way I had hoped it would, maybe I can make it a side thing.

My Clients:

Right now I have zero clients, I can always get set back up with Kinnectpay and I was recently brought on as an ambassador with Lyft. In addition, I have affiliate rights to an amazing product that I look forward to sharing with you down the road. With as busy as I am with Lyft I don’t see how I can get set back up with Fiverr. I do want to get stuff set up on Constant Content, but again I am looking for when I will find the time.

Creative Writing:

I have been collecting lots of ideas in the last few months, unfortunately time has been whats gotten away with me. I finally have a wake-up/sleep schedule and it is really helping me to get everything done. I’m hoping that my new bullet journaling habit will help me find more time in my day not only to blog, but also to write creative stories.

 

Baby #2: My Birth Announcement

It was our goal to have another baby this year, and come December 11, 2017, plus or minus a few days, we will have a little girl/boy in our lives. I’m so excited to be pregnant again. As much of a surprise the first pregnancy was, this one has its own challenges, but is so much easier.

First, I have more experience this time around. I’m not basing all my knowledge on what I was told growing up, instead I have personal experience to go off of.

Second, we are more financially stable this go round, and we have our ducks in a row. My sister was amazing enough to gift us her second vehicle as she had just bought herself a new one and no longer needed her old vehicle.

Third, I will be hiring a doula. What is a doula? A doula is a labor advocate, she helps make sure everything goes your way in the room during delivery. She also provides advice, breathing techniques, and helps relieve pressure during the laboring process. I choose to hire a doula this time for two reasons. A) I tore horribly during my first delivery and I do not want to repeat that again. B) On the good chance that my labor progresses faster than someone can pick up our son who will be a little less than 2 in a half, I need someone I trust to be there for me, while my husband is entertaining our toddler in the waiting room.

How this pregnancy is different from my first?

My nausea lasted a lot longer than with my son. In addition, heart burn has been horrible. I am a lot more active this pregnancy than I was with my first. I am determined to maintain my leg muscles this pregnancy so I can be in a vertical position during delivery. Having a toddler certainly helps with this. My last pregnancy I craved mostly tacos, whereas this pregnancy I am craving fruits and veggies. I’m pretty sure this little one will be a girl, but I won’t find out until next week, so stay tuned for the gender reveal.

 

 

Networking Events Across the U.S.A

Kinnectpay launched it’s first magazine yesterday. Check out the amazing article I wrote for them.

Networking is a key part of any successful business. And a conference is the perfect opportunity to not only make new friends, but also to learn new skills, gain new insight, and find mentors and backers if you are in the market for those things. After a thorough search of the internet I was able to score a list of 12 amazing conferences taking place between April and June of 2017. These events are taking place all across the United States of America and provide an excellent opportunity to both inform others about what you are doing, and to gain knowledge on how you can do it even better.

Events coming up in April:

LuLac National Women’s Conference

When: March 31st and April 1st

Where: Atlanta, GA

What?: Learn how Latina women have made it big in the world of politics. The conference will also host talks on Latina women in business.

CoSN 2017 Invent the Future

When: April 3-6

Where: Chicago, IL

What?: A leadership conference for educators, and educational technology creators. This conference is aimed at technology within the education system and is an excellent went to see what is being pumped out and to meet with those who choose the technology that is going into schools.

The Human Gathering

When: April 6th to 8th

Where: Los Angeles, CA

What?: An invitation only event, this conference is for those entrepreneurs who wish to give back to the world and humanity as a whole.

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When: April 25-27

Where: Phoenix, AZ

What?: An excellent experience for small business owners. This conference aims to educate, connect, and transform small business owners.

Events coming up in May:

Collision Conference

When: May 2nd to 4th

Where: New Orleans, LA

What?: Tech entrepreneurs, this one is for you. Meet with senior members working for sites like Reddit, Ebay, and AppDynamics. Bonus this conference takes place in the middle of New Orleans, Jazz Fest!!!

Grow Conference

When: May 8th to 10th

Where: New Orleans, LA

What?: Learn to grow your business at the Grow Conference. Perfect for those who already have a business, but are struggling to make it grow. Network with other entrepreneurs and learn what really works from people who have already done it.

Texas-EU Business Summit

When: May 9th to 10th

Where: Austin, TX

What?: For entrepreneurs interested in breaking into the European Market. Texas has the largest trade of any state with the European Union. This conference is designed to allow those interested in breaking into the market to network with people from across the pond, and to hear from speakers who have already done it.

TechCrunch Disrupt NYC

When: May 15th to 17th

Where: New York City, NY

What?: Aimed at startup tech business this is the perfect conference, for anyone looking to startup and anyone running a tech business. It is as entertaining as it is educational.

World Social Marketing Conference

When: May 16th and 17th

Where: Washington, D.C

What?: Aimed at increasing the efficiency and effectiveness of social marketing this conference brings together entrepreneurs, academics, and policy makers from all over the world. If you are looking to expand your knowledge on social networking and marketing this is the conference for you.

Events coming up in June:

Next Gen Summit

When: First week of June

Where: New York City, NY

What?: Are you intimidated by conferences, because of how much older the other attendees are? Check out the Next Gen Summit, geared specifically toward millennial’s who are wanting to build a business. Learn from others who have already succeeded, meet new people, and gain business partners or mentors.

TechWeek

When/where: June 5-9 in Detroit Michigan and June 19-23 in Chicago Illinois.

What?: Techweeks sponsors multiple conferences every year all across the nation. If the above dates and locations don’t work for you be sure to check in and see what other dates they have posted. TechWeek’s mission is to spread the wealth of technology entrepreneurship.

Power of Kinnections Conference

When: June 10th

Where: Austin, TX at the Palmer Event Center

What?: Here from key speakers on how they succeeded in their entrepreneurial adventures. Learn about kinnectpay and how they can help your business grow. Learn about the world of internet marketing and social networking.

 

Do you know of any new and awesome networking opportunities taking place?  Please share in the comments below.

Also to read the rest of the magazine please head over to Kinnectpay.com

Monthly Review/ Recap: March

This month has been a most unique one, not only did I finally get the opportunity to purchase my blog rights, we also had multiple visitors at the house, the baby caught a 24 hour stomach bug, and my husbands schedule went bonkers. Thought the month did not go 100% as planned I still managed to get a ton of stuff done. Not just with the blog, but also around the house. Some of you may remember my Website Revamp plan. I achieved many of the goals I set out for myself, but I also discovered some things would need to just become long-term projects. Specifically editing my 150+ old posts. In addition, to my blog revamp I also managed to get closer towards reaching some of my personal goals.

Posts by category:

Motherhood: 2

College: 1

Employment: 1

Social: 4

News: 7

Hobbies: 2

My favorite Posts to write this month: home-office-336378_1920

I loved every post I wrote this month. I lowered the number of posts that I was writing each week from 5 to 3 and interestingly enough my traffic slowed down a little, but my followers continued to increase at the same rate. By lessening the number of posts I was able to give more focus to what I wanted to say and write about. I’m taking it as a great lesson to the ode that sometimes less is more. I also ran a test of editing and updating an old post and re-posting it as new. The results were amazing and I’m thinking that is how I will continue to provide 5 posts a week. 3 New ones and two old/re-purposed posts.

Posts that received the most traffic:

I looked up the top five posts for every month since I began this blog in January of 2015, I was surprised to discover that since October 2015 my most popular post has been Expiration vs. Use by Dates. Knowing this I don’t want to keep repeating about how it made the list. Should a post sometime in the future surpass the Expiration vs. Use by Dates post then I will let you know. At any rate here’s a list of my top 6 posts for this month.

Expiration vs. Use By Dates

Old Stuff Day

Everything you Need to Know About Studying Abroad

Hobbies: Taking Care of Temperamental House Plants

Surviving Life with a Baby Part 7: Meal Planning

Developing Friendship as an Entrepreneur

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New Years Resolutions:

Personal:

Health:

I’ve been on the biggest health kick this month, eating more vegetables, and more meals cooked at home.I made homemade couscous for the first time, started making my own homemade salsa, and I even made smoothies with spinach in them.

I’m super proud of my healthy eating right now. In addition to that I also started using the Samsung S. Health App on my phone to help count my steps as I run errands, walk the dog, and even while I did laundry. I’m hoping to eventually transition to using the app as an incentive to walk even more. Meaning the baby and I are going to be going on a lot of long strolls.

I still have more steps to take towards a healthier me. For instance a bedtime and morning wake up routine would be a good place to start.

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My husband got a call from one of his long-term friends he just opened a restaurant and needs help, my husband is tired of long hours where he gets no time with his son. He is still working 6 days a week 14 hours a day, but here soon he will be going down to 40 hours with 3 days off a week. My job is to increase my income either via this or getting a part time job when that happens. Fingers crossed we see a big jump in my income report during my next two Roundup/Review Posts. In case you missed the last two check them out below.

Monthly Roundup/Review February

Monthly Round Up/Review

Even with my husband switching jobs for the what seems like 100th time we are still doing good financially. In addition, my credit score is on the rise thanks to careful use of our tax returns. Unfortunately, we are scratching our heads about how we are going to afford to move and get a new car. Some of the things we ended up having to purchase were a bit more than we budgeted for. However, we are determined in our ability to do it. Finally, amidst my blogging re-vamp endeavors I also re-launched my Fiverr account, however I still need to create a video.

If you are interested in hiring me, you can check out my Fiverr account here.

Related Posts:

3 Ways I pick up extra $$$

Surviving Life with a Baby Part 6: Budgeting

Ditch New Years Resolutions

Monthly Round Up/Review

bonsai-1269216_640Hobbies:

This month it was finally warm enough to start gardening, again. I love re-potting, watering, and pruning my plants. Plus I added some new ones I’ve never worked with before. It is a fun journey, learning how a new plant works. Ha, I’m still learning how to take care of my Hibiscus, which was one of my first plants. Check out my Hobbies Post on Taking Care of Temperamental House Plants. Unfortunately I was not able to give much time to reading, painting, or making jewelry, but I’m hoping as my schedule becomes more regular/predictable some of that will come into play. I did get to enjoy a good two hours of dancing this month. Kinnectpay and I took some time to navigate SXSW this month. We handed out business cards and shared with people about how they could make money by doing things they do on Social Networking Everyday.

To Summarize:

This month was an excellent goal achieving month I managed to take at least one or two small steps at achieving my bigger goal for the year in every category of my personal life, and wait till you here about how I managed on my writing goals. There is no better word to describe this moment, besides Ecstatic that is how I feel about this month. I’m happy and overjoyed at my ability to put my head down and bulldoze through everything the way I managed to do so this month. There were so many things that could have gotten in my way as well, but I didn’t and I couldn’t let it. This month I ate better, I raised my credit score, I danced, and I took care of my plants. Most importantly I purchased my blog and started the process of turning it into the site I always imaged it could be.

Writing Goals:

This month was busy, I purposely cut back my blog posts to 3 a week while I went through the process of updating and developing a marketing plan. In changing my weekly post count to 3 I was able to learn a lot about how I currently receive traffic to the site. In addition, I was able to give more focus to each article and was able to enjoy the writing process ten times more.

Clients:

I have a new affiliate partner and I can’t wait to share their product line with you guys this next month. It’s a product that I love and I am so excited that they accepted me as an affiliate member. I was afraid my blog wouldn’t be big enough, but I went for it anyway. I did not actively search for new clients this month, I actually stumbled on the affiliate sign up for this company, and couldn’t believe how quickly they accepted my application.

I also developed a marketing plan aimed both at gaining readership and finding/locating new clients. I did update and re-open my Fiverr account, but seeing as its been open for two weeks with no bites I’m thinking I need to come up with a new plan or re-work my packages. Finally getting around to making that video would be nice too.

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I spent some time developing a short story this month. Originally I was planning to share about story telling Day with you, but I just couldn’t find any love in writing the story, that’s how I ended up writing about my plants. I just love them, maybe even slightly obsessed since I’ve mentioned it multiple times now. Ha! I guess Gardening and Household plants will be going in the keywords now. 😛

My Income Report:

Kinnectpay: $130

Craigslist: $80

I did my usual work for Kinnectpay this month, but I also made some money selling an old phone on Craigslist, upping my income for the month.

How are your goals coming along? Have your Resolutions long been left in the dust? Check out my article Ditch New Years Resolutions for ways you can get back on track to achieving your New Years Goals.

3 Internet Scammers

Smoke and Mirrors Day a day which celebrates the art of deception and the skill of cunning. The internet has made the art of deception a much more easy and long term a game. Every year people are tricked out of their money, their time, and their feelings as others play on their emotions in order to feed their own gains whether its financial, or simply a means of entertainment. It really is sad to think how many of us have likely been conned, tricked, or bamboozled in one form or another. So how do you know? How do you look past the smoke and mirrors that are the internet to find whether or not something is truly worth your time, energy, emotion, or your cash? Today I have tips for spotting the 3 Internet Scammers.

We’ve all heard of the term catfish and troll. Maybe you’ve also heard the term emotional vampire as a part of your daily life. We have all of these words to describe the types of people that know just the way to work under our skin and make us feel really good about ourselves before pulling us down into a emotional state of disappointment, depression, and anger not only at ourselves, but the world as a whole.

Spotting the money scam:

cyper-1957736_640Obviously you should never send money to anyone you have never met in person. If anyone you met via the interwebs asks you for cash because they are stuck in another country, lost their job, or need you to transfer it to someone else don’t do it its a scam and not worth the hassle.

 

 

Spotting the Troll:forbidden-151987_640

People are not always after your money, sometimes people just want your attention and they will spin extreme and horrifying stories to get it. If you spend time on a thread like Reddit or BabyCenter and you see new members posting far out their threads you may have found yourself a troll. Sometimes they will have long tales of how they did x because someone else did y to them. The y action may be pretty bad, but it does not always warrant action x. The person will then backtrack and add more reasons to why they did x or even state that they meant something else. Excuses, backtracking, and the changing of the original story are all ways to spot a troll. Also anyone who has extremely differentiating opinions from the board or threads may theme who begins arguing from the opposite side and being completely obnoxious about stating why you are the concept is wrong and any one who believes it is insert horrific exclamatory here. You may also have yourself a troll.

Fishing out the Catfish:

catfish-1581045_640Anyone that you have been conversing with in a romantic setting that refuses to send an updated selfie or participate in video chat is more than likely catfishing you. Better yet when requesting images of people you have never met, make it a game and tell them to do it with some type of random item. Maybe even have them pose with a spoon.

 

 

Have you ever been trolled, catfished, or scammed? Tell me your story in the comments, how did you spot them.

Related posts that may also interest you:

Clean Out Your Computer Day

Why is the Millennial Generation so Poor?

Single Tasking Day

Everything you Do is Right Day

Yesterday March 16th was Everything you Do is Right Day. Earlier this week I brought you a post about how Everything you Think is Wrong, within that post I talked about how sometimes we just need to write everything down in a list in order to make it all right, and sometimes that means multiple types of lists as well. Today I want to talk about how to have a day where everything you do is right.

Start your day off with a healthy choice:

When you start your day with a healthy choice it leads to more healthy choices. For example maybe you don’t eat breakfast in the morning, or you eat a very unhealthy breakfast most mornings. breakfast-848313_640By choosing a healthy breakfast of whole wheat toast, with a hard boiled egg and glass of juice you have already set yourself up for healthy eating choices throughout the day. Maybe breakfast isn’t really something you have an issue with, perhaps you just want to be more active during the day. Start your morning off with a 10 minute morning stretch routine, or a 15 minute yoga, or 30 minute full body work out. This little Smart and Healthy Choice will  have you feeling more motivated throughout the rest of your day to make more smart and healthy choices.

Take time to relax:

Some of us are pretty healthy eaters, we don’t have too much issue with being active, but we carry a lot of stress around. We are worried about our jobs, we are worried about finances etc. etc. etc. The list goes on an on for the number of things we as humans can stress over.

Last week my husband and I took a day for ourselves. We left the baby with a babysitter for four hours, and we went and got a couples massage and had lunch. It was amazing. wellness-589770_640After the massage I was so relaxed and feeling so good about my body that I made healthy eating choices at the restaurant. That massage relaxed me enough so that the next day I continued to make healthy eating choices and even managed to get a lot of work done around the house. Since getting the massage, I have actually woken up every morning and gotten dressed instead of hanging out in what I had slept in the night before.

Make a list and stick to it:

I mentioned in my Everything You Think is Wrong Post that by making lists you are able to free up your mind to focus on the tasks you have at hand. When you are overwhelmed and wondering what you should do first, the best thing is to write everything you need to do down. Then prioritize it. Finally Single Task it. Focus on one thing at a time, don’t move to the next thing until the first item on your list is done.

Related Post: Single Tasking Day

Get Out of your head:

I know I mentioned relaxing before, but this is important. It goes beyond just relaxing. You don’t necessarily have to go spend $50 or $100 on a massage, instead what you can do is take some you time.20140409_132244

If all you have is ten minutes use that time to meditate, relax and clear your mind of all intrusive thoughts. If you have more time you could go for a hike allow your stress to disappear as you instead take in the beautiful nature trails that exist around you. If you are stuck indoors spend 15-30 minutes doing a yoga routine off YouTube.

Read a good book, and visit a new world.

These are just a few things that help me to have a day where everything I do is right. What are some things that allow you to have a perfect day? Let me know in the comments.

 

Everything you Think is Wrong Day

I thought it would be interesting this year to highlight some of the unique and lesser known holidays. This Wednesday, March 15, 2017, is Everything you Think is Wrong Day. I felt this holiday was perfectly fitting for how I’ve been feeling about this month. confused-880735_640Despite all of my research and studying about blogging and marketing over the past two years I’m starting to feel like everything I thought was wrong. I’m overwhelmed with the amount of work it is taking to get my blog fully set up. There’s so much to do in order to make sure everything is organized and in it’s proper place. I am honestly starting to wonder why I didn’t do so much of this stuff sooner. In order to help combat the crazy that is my brain I have a ton of lists that I am working with and creating. Basically when you find yourself with too many thoughts that everything you are thinking is wrong, the best thing to do is make a list. Here’s a list of the lists I am currently working with or in the process of building. (Yes I have a list for my lists, try saying that five times fast.)

First, I have a March to do list, with all the things I need to accomplish this month to optimize and improve my blog.

Lists I am making or have already made this month:

Niche Key words for Google Alerts

Posts located under each category

Posts under each tagto-do-734587_640

List of tags used

List of articles by name that I have written

List of most popular articles by month (Top 5)

List of Posts to be used via Social Media (from across the web)

List of memes, quotes, gifs, videos to be used via social media

Make a list of what articles are linked to other articles i.e X article has a link for articles A, B, and C

Make a list of blogs I follow

Make a wish list of products for the business

Create a dump folder for stock images to use on blog and a separate for social media memes/motivational posts

Make a list of promotional activities for each social networking platform

Make a list of items to be printed

Make a list of rooms to declutter

I have also created lists for monthly, weekly, and daily to do’s for the blog and my household responsibilities. I love lists, and organizing my to do’s. To help keep my mind and work organized I set up a whole new system in the form of three poster boards and post-it’s. I stole the idea from one of my favorite bloggers Suzi from Start a Mom Blog. post-it-notes-1284667_640Her Super Simple Weekly Schedule helps me keep track of my events, housekeeping, and gives me some basic ideas of what’s going on with the blog that day. I am also using her Blog Vision Board and Editorial Calendar. The Editorial Calendar could also be used for a monthly schedule if you are not running a blog or if you just want to keep track of your monthly basics.

 

The Future of Blogging

Kinnectpay.com will be hosting it’s first conference June 10th, 2017 in Austin, TX at the Palmer Event Center. There will be 6 main speakers. The topics to be discussed are Recruiting and Networking, God and Business, Financial Literacy, Social Media and Brand Management, Blogging, and Leadership. Kinnectpay’s CEO Joel Usher will be the Leadership speaker, for details on the other speakers please stay tuned for next weeks article, where I will be giving you a brief bio of the 6 speakers. Recently I had a conversation with someone regarding the difference between Social Media Brand Management and Blogging the conversation really got me thinking about the usefulness of Kinnectpay to bloggers.

What Bloggers Do?

I really feel Kinnectpay.com will be a big part of the future for bloggers. Why do I believe this? I believe this because their is so much we as bloggers have to do in order to get our writing in front of others. We have to network, we have to post to social media outlets, and at the same time we have to create amazing content that people actually want to read. We have all of this work we have to do and many of us then have to cross our fingers hoping and praying that all of our work turns into cash. For many it doesn’t, for some it brings in some pocket change, and for a few it brings in full time incomes. With kinnectpay.com even those who are not making anything can make something.

How Kinnectpay can help:

Kinnectpay pay’s its members to connect they have a blog section, and when you post an update via your profile you can sync it so that the post will also show up via facebook and twitter. When you sign up for the Standard package you will be given the ability to post blog posts to the blog page. The more places people can find your work, and your name the greater chances of someone finding you. In addition, Kinnectpay is currently working on establishing a point system so that when you post a blog post via their site, log in to the website, or even post an update via their site you can earn points that you can turn into cash. This is on top of the cash you make for getting new people to sign up for the standard package.

Where is the future?

The future of blogging is now with Kinnectpay.com.

Post blog articles

Update three social media accounts with one click

Increase your google ranking by getting your name on a new up and coming platform

If you are interested in learning more about how Kinnectpay.com is the future of blogging and are located in the Austin, TX area or will be visiting during June 10th, then please head on over to the site to purchase your tickets and learn more about the Power of Kinnections Conference.

*This article has affiliate links by clicking the links and joining Kinnectpay.com I will receive compensation, this does not add any additional cost to your purchase.

My Website Revamp Plan

Tax returns came in early last week, and as planned I bought my domain name. I now have the opportunity to make an income from my blog! I am so excited. I want my blog to be organized, and I want to really start working towards my goal of 10,000 followers by December. In order to do this I have decided to focus my energies this month to developing a marketing plan and putting it into action. I am also planning to set it up so that beyond this month I only have to spend one night a week marketing after all what I really enjoy is writing awesome content. So this month I’m going to forgo my 5 posts a week and knock it down to 3 so I can focus more energy towards growing my social networks. I have already redesigned my blogs layout and background as many of you might have noticed so here is my plan for March.

My goals for March:

This week:

I will be focusing my energies towards creating a weekly marketing plan for Facebook. I have a Google spreadsheet that I use to keep track of all of my posts for Kinnectpay’s facebook page, I plan to create a similar document for my blog. In addition, I will be editing 30 of my previous blog posts for basic errors and making notes on whether or not I need to update the images.

Week of March 12-18

Make sure all blog posts are under the correct tab. Make a spreadsheet for the types of posts available under each tab. Also create a list of previously used tags names of each article that utilizes that tag. Edit another 30 articles for basic errors and clarity, I will also note whether the images need to be updated.

Week of March 19-25

Create a marketing plan for Pinterest and Twitter. Make a list of what articles are under what category. Edit another 30 posts and note whether the images need to be updated.

Week of March 26-April 1st

Edit remaining posts and note whether the images need to be updated. Create a general pitch e-mail layout as well as update my writing portfolio. Create a list of tags and what articles are located under each tag. I will also create a list of companies to contact with pitches.

My goal is to have my blog running like a well oiled machine by the end of the month. In addition, I want it to look very professional so that I can grow the blog and connect with more people. If I want to reach 10,000 followers I need to have a good marketing plan, so the majority of my energy will go towards developing a marketing platform.