I have a New Years Resolution to reach 10,000 followers this year, so being the research nut that I am I’ve been looking all over the internet for ways to achieve my goal. During my research I discovered the blog Successful Blogging where I found 5 Simple Steps to attract 1,000 visitors to your posts. One of the steps involved Cultivating Friendships. How do you cultivate friendships as an Entrepreneur? Similar to how you develop friendships in your personal life. Converse, do favors, and spend time.
Why do I suck at making friends?
Truth be told I’m an Ambivert, meaning I’m equal parts extroverted and introverted. I greatly enjoy spending time with people, but I also greatly enjoy time alone. Some times I will swing a little more one way or the other depending on the season.
Growing up I was often conflicted, because I felt I had no friends. The anxiety and sadness about this idea would just overwhelm me, turning me into a whining, weeping, mess. The problem? I did not have the skills or emotional support needed to promote the friendships I had. I didn’t really know how to hold a phone conversation, text messaging had only just become a common thing, and I didn’t have access to the social networking sites my friends were using namely MySpace, and soon later Facebook.
Since becoming an adult not much has changed, albeit I do have access to social networking sites. In fact, I have 8 accounts, two on facebook, and two on pinterest. However, despite my large number of social networking accounts I still lack the emotional connection of a lifelong friendship, that I always dreamed of as an adolescent. (My husband is someone I would definitely my best friend in life and I consider myself extremely lucky for having found him. However, his and I’s relationship goes beyond friendship, we are life partners are failures and achievements personally affect the other.)
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To be perfectly honest I don’t get out much, the difference between now and my adolescence is rather than blaming my friends or my life I understand it to be a me problem. I know that if I really want to build and cultivate strong friendships I need to communicate with my friends. I need to make plans to spend time with them. If I do this they in turn will then want to make plans with me. My problem is I don’t take the time to communicate and I don’t make plans very often.
Converse as an Entrepreneur:
Whether you’re a blogger, e-commerce seller, or landscaper if you want to grow you business you will need to hold conversation with other people.
As a blogger this may mean participating on Reddit Threads, other blogs, or even facebook groups. Check out this cool post by Suzi from Start a Mom Blog, she has everything you need to know about facebook groups on her site.
If you sell home-goods like lamps, tables, and chairs you will need suppliers as well as some marketing assistance. If you want assistance in marketing your website you may want to employ the help of a blogger. You may find yourself attending real estate, or interior design meetups. Comment on other blogs, participate in conversation on social media. Interact and participate and people will eventually start doing the same with you. Perhaps even send a complimentary email about something they did or said that inspired you.
As a landscaper you could follow a similar path to the e-commerce or since your business is more localized get to know your neighbors. Attend the neighborhood barbecue, go to those lame Home Owner’s Association meetings. After all both those release you from the awkwardness of door to door selling.
Do favors as an Entrepreneur:
Obviously as an entrepreneur you are in the business for the money, but remember opinions, advice, and social networking shares are free. Also they have the potential to bring you more clients and showcase your business. As you find people you would like to gain traffic from or aspire to take on as a future client you may want to do unprompted favors for them. Maybe you comment on a number of blog posts, perhaps you notice a broken link (mention it to them), e-mail them telling them about how their post made you feel and share their post via your own social media platforms. Write a review about their site or service on your own blog and link it back to theirs. Inform them of this and don’t be afraid to ask questions.
Spend Time as an Entrepreneur:
Time is money, sometimes its literal and sometimes its figurative. By attending networking events that allow you to meet with potential clients and even allow you to meet with others in your niche you may be able to make connections that last the entirety of your career.
Using the same examples a blogger may attend events related to blogging, marketing, or depending on their specific niche they may attend a great number of different types of conventions and networking events.
Someone in e-c0mmerce selling lamps, tables, and chairs might attend marketing, small-business, and entrepreneur themed conferences, but they may also attend Real Estate Events or even crafting, antique, and Steam Punk themed events if their furnishings apply to a smaller niche market.
As a landscaper you may find it useful to attend Gardening conventions or even a local Farmers Market. Get creative and think outside of the box to find and expand your market as a means of growing your clientele.
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Do you have any tips for making friends as an Entrepreneur? Please share in the comments below, I’d love to hear about your ideas.