Well it appears I sort of lost track of time towards the end of March. I haven’t updated in almost three weeks regarding how my New Years Resolutions are coming along. To refresh your memory, March was all about balancing the budget. In the end my husband and I decided the best course of action was for the two of us to ultimately switch places. I begin my first day of work on Monday, April 11th. I’m both nervous and excited all at the same time. I’m nervous because as a breast feeding mother I don’t know how I am going to balance out pumping while on the job. Legally I have no problems, and the job that I will be working should provide ample breaks for me to utilize in order to pump. Overall the month of March was very successful. In that my husband and I now know exactly how much our bills come to every month. We are hoping to have everything balanced out by the end of May/June. Following that we will be able to start saving/working on the debts that are hurting our credits. My husband is considering getting a part time night-shift position somewhere so that we can have some extra income coming in. However, we have decided to give him at least through May/ early June for him to rest up before he does that. Also that will give us plenty of time to determine how much money I will be bringing in every month.
February’s goal was to improve my business, I am continuing to work with the company Kinnectpay as their Senior Communications Liaison. I currently write a couple of posts a month for them as well as update their facebook page daily with ads from the sponsors and motivational posts. The motivational posts have really helped spike our outreach almost doubling the numbers we had been seeing prior to me including them. Basically I spend the weekend, creating 100+posts and scheduling their post dates on facebook. Its easy and brings in around $100 extra dollars every month. I’ve also been doing some side work working on my friends resumes.
January’s goal was to begin a workout routine and to work on my mental health. Honestly this month I have been all over the place mentally. However, I have powered through and made it through the difficult moments without resorting back to my depression routine. Unfortunately, I haven’t been taking care of myself all that well either. I did manage to slow down on my soda intake and opt for tea instead. I haven’t rid myself of the soda completely yet, but I feel as if it is becoming easier.
The first of April came and went last week and with it began my goal to be more social. I’ve actually been re-evaluating the friendships that I have. I’ve become really close with my upstairs neighbor who has two kids. We meet at least twice a month on our front porches to discuss how life is going. We both get to get away from our children, without having to worry about dressing up, or wasting gas and money. Its wonderful, we will literally sit and talk for hours until either one of her children calls her back up or our husbands call us back in. Its a great friendship with give and take. We will also watch each others children if the other needs a break.
As I’ve been reviewing my friendships I’ve also noticed that I might be in the middle of a toxic one. A friend of mine is constantly asking me for favors. Rarely if ever does she call simply to ask how I am doing, or to just spend time together. She knows my husband and I are not in the happiest of places financially yet she keeps asking for things that I just can’t afford to do for her with our limited resources. I feel bad that I can’t help, but at the same time I am becoming angry at her lack of courtesy for the fact that I have a family to take care of and I can’t constantly be the one responsible for also taking care of her. Especially if she isn’t going to provide me with some type of courtesy as a how are you doing as well. As it is I have decided that I either need to sit her down for a talk or just take a break away from her for awhile as I know that talking is likely to make her angry if she bothers to listen. Or it will fall on deaf ears, in which case I’ve wasted my time and valuable energy.
As I move forward this month I plan to schedule in some time with my neighbor friend, and I also plan to make a call to a few other friends of mine, who I have not been giving the proper treatment. (I’m terrible when it comes to picking up the phone and calling people.) I’m going to try and check in on my friends more this month. I’m also going to try and make it to my sisters house for a visit.