Aiming towards my 25th Year

I have always been a person of self reflection. Yesterday was my 24th birthday and since my 23rd so much has changed I am a mother. I have started my own writing business and tomorrow I begin working part time for a 3rd party company who is contracted with Google. I allowed too much of myself to get lost this last year as I dealt with the changes of existing in the real world outside of college. Looking forward I am going to be more proactive in my health and in my career that I have created for myself. I deserve to be happy with where I am and I know what I need to do in order to be happy.

 

My goals as I start working towards my 25th year.

 

[  ]Drink more water

[  ]Start dancing again

[  ]Visit the gym minimum once a week

[  ]Shower daily or at least every other day  (having a baby makes this hard)

[  ]Keep up my blog

[  ]Grow my writing business

[  ]Get on a schedule

[  ]Keep up with my chores around the house

 
I need to have balance in my life. I am a great mulitasker, but I am always slow starting out when knew stuff is added. A few months ago a baby was brought into my life. I have since adjusted to his needs. I now need to balance and include the rest of my responsibilities. Including taking care of myself, helping with finances, and following my writing dreams. Recently I have been so focused on taking care of the baby and my husband that I have been completely ignoring myself. To be happy I need more financial stability as well as a healthy body and clean house. I have done very little to make myself happy since the baby was born and my husband looked at me the other day and said he was tired of looking at a shell. He told me I needed to start taking care of myself more because he wanted his wife back. It has taken me a few days to realize what he really meant. He as always woke me up and showed me the mirror of who I am. Currently I am an empty pitcher, but next year I will be full, because I will dedicate myself towards having a better future and a better year next year. My dreams didn’t end with my son’s birth they just got clearer and more possible because I now have a bigger reason to accomplish them. My son needs to know that he can accomplish his dreams. For him to know that I need to accomplish mine.

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You Can Never Have Enough (Items you go through like crazy with a baby in the house)

Before the baby there were few items I had to keep in stock. In fact the only item I was sure to have constantly on hand was toilet paper. Now that there’s a baby in the house all of that has changed. Below baby-19534_1920is a list of items you should consider stocking up on if you have or are planning to have a baby in the house.

Toilet Paper

Feminine Hygeine products (pads and/or tampons)

Paper towels

Wash Clothes

Sheets

Towels

Diapers

Soap (Dish soap, dishwasher soap, laundry detergent and hand-soap)

Water filters or bottled water (refillable water bottles)

Coffee

Tea

Snacks

Microwave/frozen meals

Sandwich stuff

Trash bags

Coconut oil

You might have noticed I did not include baby wipes in this list that is because I make my own wipes, it is for this reason that I go through so many paper towels. In loo of purchasing expensive wipes I simply make my own using paper towels. It is much cheaper.

Paper Towel Recipe:

1/2 paper towel roll

1 cup boiled water

1.5-2 tbsp. coconut oil

Month Four of Year One

*The information provided in this article is meant for entertainment purposes only, please consult your doctor for all medical concerns and conditions.

My Mental Health:masks-833421_1280

Wow what a crazy month it has been. We almost didn’t get to attend the wedding thanks to some not so awesome roommates running off with our savings and rent. Luckily my husband and I have a good support system who pitched in and managed to get us to our best friends wedding. The day we went to drive down it was storming like crazy their were tornadoes and half the roads were flooded. The trip down took 6 hours, because the baby just had to take his afternoon nap before we left. In the end we stayed at my Nana’s house, the baby slept in a pack n play portable crib. The night before we left to attend I literally got one hour of sleep because I had left everything to the last minute and an hour after I finally went to bed the baby just had to wake up. After our six hour drive my Nana fed us a big meal of spaghetti and we spent some time with her before going to bed. Since we were in an unfamiliar place it took longer for my son to go to sleep he eventually went to sleep at 2am and we had to be out of the house by 9am to attend the wedding. This means we were up at 7am and I got five hours of sleep. The weekend was way more stressful and emotional than I could have ever predicted I cried hard happy tears at the ceremony and big sad tears at the reception during the father daughter dance. (That itself has so much background involved there isn’t enough words in this post to discuss further.) After the wedding we returned to my Nana’s to pack up our stuff before we stopped by to visit my Husbands mother. His mother is coming to the end of a battle with cancer and I am really sad to say seems to be on the loosing end of that battle. My husband has been grieving his mother for the last couple of weeks. As a result my PPD is no longer PPD, but rather PPA (Post-Pardum Anxiety). I no longer get frustrated with the baby, however I am extremely paranoid that he is going to be stolen or taken.

baby-428395_1280How Baby is Doing?

It seems like every day my son is doing something new. Developmentally he is much further along than most babies are at his age. He can sit up by himself as long as something is supporting his back. He is just a small push away from being able to roll from back to belly. I have a strong feeling he could if he wanted to, but he hates tummy time so much he just stops himself from doing it. He is almost crawling, his army crawl is impeccable. In addition, the baby continues to try and copy mommy and daddy. During the wedding he was very well behaved he stayed quiet the whole time. And during the reception he was the life of the party behind the bride and groom of course. Everyone was lavishing their love and attention on the baby. He has truly become a little flirt.

Life as a breast feeding mama:baby-21167_1280

Prior to the wedding I had an oversupply now I am producing just enough for the baby. However, I start a new job next week. Luckily I work from home, but I am now needing to start a stock pile so if I don’t have the time necessary to feed lo, I can either have a sitter feed him, or my husband. I had originally created a small emergency stash not long after the baby was born, but it has since been used up and I am having to start from scratch. Unfortunately I had lowered my supply over the weekend of the wedding. In order to up my stash I made some oatmeal and flax seed cookies. I was supposed to include brewers yeast as well, but I wasn’t able to find it when I finally got around to making the cookies. My supply has gone up a little, but not as much as it needs to in order to create a new stash. I will talk more about making a milk stash in my my next post.

circle-304524_1280Biggest Life Saver’s I have Learned this Month:

Tip #1: When traveling making a list of everything you, baby, and husband need for the trip. I forgot a number of my husbands items this trip and it made his experience way more difficult than it needed to be.

Tip#2: Be prepared to change diapers in the car when you are on the road, not every store has a changing table. This means packing plastic bags to throw the diapers in.

Tip#3: Keep track of your stuff, I almost lost the keys to the car on the way down to the wedding, because I sat them next to the carseat when I was getting the baby out for a diaper change.

Tip#4: Pack pre-pumped milk so you do not have to constantly stop especially on long trips. If I hadn’t pre-pumped milk for this trip our six hour drive could have easily been turned into eight hours. Typically the drive is 3 hours, but between the weather blocking off some of the roads, and the baby needing diaper changes 3 hours quickly became 6. The trip back was much better taking us only 4 hours with us having to stop not for the baby who slept the entire trip back, but for me having to stop so I could wake myself up as I was so exhausted having had a total of six hours of sleep in the 48 hours leading up to the drive home.

Next Month:

4 month shots

Creating a milk stock pile

Discussing solids